Polyamory Many Loves: The Poly-Tantric Lovestyle: A Personal Account POLYAMORY, MANY LOVES, The Polytantric Lovestyle, A Personal Account, by Janet Kira Lessin will challenge, delight, satisfy, amuse and entertain you. Join Janet in her juicy journey of sacred sexuality in Polyamory, Many Loves. She explores pair dating, a woman/man/woman threesome, man/woman/man triads, quatrads, networks, and finally, a polyamorous pod. Janet shares her innermost thoughts, feelings, spiritual epiphanies and erotic experiences as she learns the ways of many-lover loving with increasing skill and grace. Her trials and triumphs teach all who would tread the path of polyamory. Janet’s amorous experiments lead her to blend All-Chakra Tantra––her variety of sacred loving--with polyamory––relating to contemporaneous multiple lovers. The synthesis Janet creates is the PolyTantric Lovestyle. The polytantric lovestyle heals emotional pain and social separation for individuals, pairs, and groups and will, Janet believes, be therapeutic for the world as well. Chapters Explore Loving More Women Get Most from Tantra and Polyamory Equality, Respect and Reverence Fear of Sex; Living Tantra and Polyamory Truth, Trauma and Transition External Relationship Energy Poly for the Vulnerable Inner Child Tantra Touches Releases Imprints Are We Really Mono_poly? Perils and Pearls of Polyamory Goddess Gifts Goddess Two Women and a Man Two Men and a Woman Bisexuality is a Touchy Subject Couple Dating: Couples Two Couples; Living and Loving Together Four Men and Two Ladies Connecting at a Poly-Tantra Ritual Double Penetration Poly Pilgrims Progress Ride the Rhythms of Relationships Pitfalls of Polyamory Still Tantric After All These Years Still Poly After All These Years Poly Love Pods About the Author Janet Kira Lessin, Director & CEO of the World Polyamory Association, the School of Tantra and the World Peace Association leads seminars and conferences on the fields tantra, psychology, relationships, polyamory, UFOlogy, ancient anthropology, alternative realties, speculative theories and peace. Janet has devoted her life to the healing of the planet. She realizes true healing originates within each individual and expands by the power of love till it envelopes all humanity. She is convinced that through workshops and conferences like the ones she leads, conferences that focus on evolution and spiritual growth combined with personal introspection, reflection and commitment by individuals to take responsibility and heal, humanity can transform and create a civilized civilization that respects consciousness in all its diversity. This new paradigm of a conscious society honors individuality and creative expression. The paradigm includes creativity through relationships. Relationships are a high spiritual path for growth and transformation--unlike sexual repression which leads to violence. Humankind needs to honor individual choice in regards to sex to evolve to its highest potential, transcend violence and end war. Polyamory is a positive, passionate path to peace. Janet and husband Sasha are healers, teachers, relationship counselors and psychotherapists. They've been married polyamorously since 1997. They've appeared in seven television shows promoting polyamory: Leeza Gibbons, Inside Edition, Extra, Time Zone International, Talk or Walk, John Walsh and Penn & Teller's Bullshit and a documentary, Intimacy. They were featured in Time, Hustler, Honolulu Weekly and Playboy and have appeared on numerous radio shows. They live in Maui, Hawaii, have an active therapy practice and school where they teach tantra, counseling and relationships. They travel frequently to reach a larger audience, teach and help those in need. They may be reached at http://www/schooloftantra.com . Free Preview I began writing as a means to cathart, release, reprogram and heal a lifetime of abuse, cultural conditioning, religious programming and societal pressure. My husband, a therapist, one of the best in the world, didn't realize how wounded I was when I met him the Summer of 1997. Despite the smiles on my face when we met at the Loving More Polyamory Conference in California, I had actually hit rock bottom. No one knew because I was a good actor. So good, in fact, I fooled myself. I was in deep pain. Both my parents were dying. I was living in a co-dependant relationship in a tiny, one-room studio with Jason, an alcoholic. I loved Jason. Jason, handsome, brilliant, dynamic, began having more and more frequent episodes of alcoholic psychosis and would beat me when he couldn't figure out who he was. I knew it was sick but I couldn't bring myself to leave. On top of that, my best friend Janice left Hawaii to be a stripper in Alaska. She was my major support system, my only real friend next to Jason and he wasn't someone I could rely on because he was going nuts. When Janice left, her broken-hearted boyfriend and I became lovers. We were all poly, so it was ok in the long run, but even with permission for some reason Will and I hid the fact we were lovers from Janice for a while. I soon learned that trying to fix one damaged relationship with a new dysfunctional one was a recipe for trouble. Rock bottom's not as bad as it could be. You can only go up from there. Like the Phoenix rising, after the meltdown I was born anew. With the help of Sasha, Dr. Lessin, my new beloved and future husband, I began to reconstruct my life. He gently guided me as I dove fully into it and took myself through the wringer. No holds barred. I had to get to the core of myself in order to make it because the years of band-aid therapy was actually killing me. Through the process I began to realize who I am. Up until then my entire life had been a facade created by my own psyche's ability to fabricate an operational reality from whence I could function while protecting my walking, wounded Inner Child. That poor baby, who was me, couldn't face reality and remain sane. I can forgive myself because what I've learned through my own process and the subsequent years I've worked beside Dr. Lessin as a counselor, is that my story is a very common one. I've been writing this book for nine years. There's no end, just a logical stopping point or this story will never get to the editors. My story, like yours, like the human story, is ongoing. However, now, I'm living in a pretty blissed-out space. I'm either very brave or a bit crazy as I've climbed outside the societal matrix and challenged all the social norms to get what I really want. My discontent, anger, sorrow and rage guided me out of the dark. Raised Christian, conservative Republican, heterosexual, monogamous, I'm now on the polar opposite side of the spectrum from where I originated. Now I'm the most open-minded person I know. Spiritual, liberal, peace-voter, bisexual, polyamorous, I couldn't possibly be happier. While my days aren't always perfect, in my core being I'm at peace because I'm free to pursue the real me. I invite you to do the same and set yourself free. Journal, take classes, open up, explore. Stretch your boundaries, get out of your box and climb outside your comfort zone. See who you really are beyond your self-imposed parameters designed by shoulds shoved down your throat. You may stay just where you are. But more likely, you can't help but grow. While you may not end up in the same place I am, that's cool. The journey to self discovery and the realization that you're at choice is all that matters. I hope you enjoy my story. It's very deep, personal, intense. I can hardly believe I'm sharing what I'm sharing. If I think about it too much, I'll censor it and never get it out there. My husband's been my biggest fan, has encouraged me to write. Without him, this book just wouldn't be. And I know it's meant to be. Somehow I feel it's important you know, that you realize someone else has been down that road, experienced similar things, thought strange thoughts and played with far-out ideas ways beyond the norm. That's probably how "the norm" changes. First hidden, now revealed, the truth, as scary as it sometimes feels, eventually sets us free. All of us. Free to be who we really are.